No suffering is ever about another person, it is always the result of the relationship between you and yourself. It stems from not enough self-love. We sometimes look to others to make us feel special and lovable. Why does it seem difficult to get the love we need from others?
The real question to ask yourself is, “Am I practicing unconditional love for myself?” The person who the unconditional love must start with is you. No one else will be able to compensate for the lack of love you give to yourself. This is how the universe works.
What does unconditional love look like and feel like? Well, someone that truly loves themselves speaks kindly to and about themselves; someone who does what they enjoy; someone who allows other’s to treat them well; and someone who finds joy daily...to name a few!
It all starts with our thoughts. What I tell myself and you tell yourself is super important. Do you say kind things or bad things in relation to you? You may be almost oblivious to the poor self-talk and limiting beliefs. That’s ok. You can start today to turn things around.
Focus on one positive aspect about you and praise yourself for it. Continue doing this until you’ve created a list of all your good qualities. When you have a down day you can look back over your list for inspiration. When you’re experiencing an awesome day remember to add to your list.
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